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You Are Not the Man You Are Supposed to Be

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In this searingly honest book, magazine journalist and founder of men's media site The Book of Man Martin Robinson visits mental health groups and prisons, talks to sex activists, evolutionary psychologists and musicians, works out with Special Forces soldiers, watches cage fights, has a drag make-over and subjects himself to an 'intimacy jam', all in his quest to unpeel the layers that make up the modern man.

 

Reflecting on his reporting and discussions with experts, Martin examines some of the most pressing concerns facing men today, including violence, suicide and the spectre of toxic masculinity. Through interviews with the likes of SAS: Who Dares Wins’ Jason Fox, Jason Williamson of Sleaford Mods, musician Professor Green and Olympic gold-winning boxer Luke Campbell MBE, Robinson explores how men are defining themselves beyond traditional male stereotypes; whether they can learn to expand the limits of what society expects; how to combat the male mental health epidemic; and why men need a new blueprint to live by in a society transformed by the Digital Age, new attitudes in gender relations and a global pandemic.

Author/Artist/Designer

Martin Robinson

Pages

240

Dimensions

24.3cm x 2.5cm x 16.2cm

ISBN

9781472971272

Colour

Product code

163027

Book Format

Hardback

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About the Exhibition
Fashioning Masculinities

Fashioning Masculinities: The Art of Menswear

At a moment of unprecedented creativity in men's fashion and reflection on gender, this exhibition​ explored how designers, tailors and artists – and their clients and sitters – have constructed and performed masculinity, and unpicked it at the seams.